Being Stuck

Ever feel stuck? Like you're on a merry-go-round and the damn ride won't come to en end? That annoying music on repeat in your head, the spinning, the up and down of it all... Just when you thought you'd found something fun and interesting, a ride with plenty of potential that got you all excited just at the thought of getting on. And yet...

 I've read and listened to tons of personal development publications in the last year or two. I've felt motivated and inspired to take on new projects and set new goals for myself. I've launched myself into new adventures that were so promising that I couldn't possibly say no. I've committed to becoming a better me. And yet...

 I know that life is a journey and that none of us is perfect. I know what I value in life, what is truly important to me. And I know what I need to do to live my values and create a better me. All of those books have confirmed what I already knew to be true. I'm well aware of what I need to do in order to achieve success on that front. And yet...

 Why can't I just do it? What is making me feel stuck? What are the obstacles to my achieving success? What is keeping me from being truly grateful for all that I already have? Why can't I just boss up and change what doesn't serve me?

 Me.

 I'm the obstacle. I'm in my own way. I'm the saboteur.

 I've told myself that if others can do it, be successful and live their lives to the fullest, then so can I. And of course I can. Seriously. I can do it. But the problem is, I'm not doing it. And I think that's what makes me feel worse. I know what needs to be done and I'm blatantly ignoring it.

 I have "to do" lists up the wazoo. I have a solid morning routine. I write in my journal fairly regularly. I plan my week and get the whole family organized. I'm in charge of hundreds of people. Every. Single. Day.

 And yet.

 Well, I'm sick of feeling stuck. I'm tired of feeling tired. Being stressed is making me feel stressed. I can't focus and I'm going nowhere, fast.

 I've had big plans since as long as I can remember. Lofty goals and big dreams. And I'm proud to say that I've realized many goals and dreams so far. I'm also proud to say that I still have big hopes and dreams that are in line with my core values. But I think it's time for a change. It's time to start thinking... small.

 That's right. Small. One hour at a time kind of small. Not even one day at a time. No, I'm taking it slow, I'm taking baby steps. I'm whittling down, I'm shifting focus. I don't want to feel stuck anymore. I want to feel like my efforts are getting me somewhere. I want to feel that what I do matters and makes a difference. And it's time to focus on the one person who can make that happen.

 Me.

 They say that if you want to make a change in the world, then you've got to start with make changes at home. It doesn't get closer to home than this. It takes courage to look in the mirror and say "I need help. I can't do this alone. Things need to change." I'm working on that courage.

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  1. AnnaïckMarch 8, 2020 at 6:35 PM

    I think you've got it all and yet, you don't see it.
    I think you are on the right path and yet, you are searching for a different one.
    I think you are looking too far and yet, everything you want, need and crave for us right in front of you.
    I think you are right to come back to the basic 'cause what we really need to be happy is often so simple. And yet....

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  2. shelley18March 26, 2020 at 2:22 PM

    I see you & hear you. You are everyone's rock, but even rocks get tired. Keep true to you & you'll be great because this too shall pass. You are my superstar ������

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